When I read of a woman being raped I feel her shame and humiliation, and would gladly utterly destroy her abuser.
It is not that I am not interested, but I am too interested and it reduces the likelihood I can relate to them as a person. A great article, an actual contribution instead of repetition of the same stuff everyone else has said a thousand times. I really enjoy a lot of what I find on Quillette. Hiding behind a biological excuses when it suits much? Maybe its not biology after all but that the insecure need to fancy themselves if none else will….
The thing is tho that sometimes she IS asking for it. A woman who advertises that she is advertising may find that folks notice the product.
Sorry girls, but your little black dress does mean yes after all. But the radfem, spoiled, self indulgent child that she is, throws a tantrum at the very idea that she has responsibilities as well are rites. But you are offended when the wrong male responds not talking physical assault by looking or making a comment?
How do we know if we are invited unless we ask? Yes, and being able to tell which is which is often very difficult and it used to be one of the most important lessons a lad had to learn, which is which. Women often give mixed signals.
Nuts, every last self-valuing woman wants to be shown that she is special. Women want to be pursued. Admit it. So, society has developed something of a code of conduct to make this problem somewhat more tractable. Wimin think that they can ignore every rule and there will be no consequences. They are mistaken. But a lady knows how to behave and she is honored for it. To be a gentleman is to learn how to treat a lady like a lady.
Jeffrey How do you know? Ray Every woman might want to be pursued but not by every man. Many women prefer men to make the first move. So, if a guy asks that is harassment? You are basically stating you should have all the power because if we are in doubt we have to wait for the female to make the first move?
It is all about your sex having complete dominion it almost seems like. He has suggested that successful women still prefer for their dates to pick up the tab as a symbol of commitment to sacrifice. Perhaps a little more generosity of spirit might help…. Not sure by what you mean by a little more generosity of spirit.
I would argue that is a two way street. Take someone who is neurdiverse, like myself, a high functioning Autistic. Or someone with depression or anxiety disorder. For them to work up the nerve to approach a female takes a lot of work. But they could innocently misread the signals. Now, if the automatic assumption is that men are pigs, or that they should be able to understand is simply unrealistic. Compassion and empathy are a two way street.
Contrary to popular belief men are often afraid of women and rejection. This is just the usual stinginess and exploitation that rich people commonly display. Typically very intellectually incapable men. Not slut shaming. Clothing selection is a social broadcast of values, social rank, sexual receptiveness and orientation, etc.
Chaucer and the Fictions of Gender
Culturally, before 3rd wave, there was a much greater societal focus on being deliberate about selections. Society passed these stupid men. Are the men really intellectually incapable? Cosmo and other popular female magazines gave tips to women on how to dress sexy for that guilt free hookup. It had nothing to do with prostitution. It was empowering we were told. Women wanted sex as much as men, or so we were assured.
Women did dress this way, generally in an attempt to attract male attention. Watch any show or movie from the era.
Women were told to flaunt their bodies, to flirt openly, to be as free sexually as males. We in generation X came of age in this mentality. Watch any John Hughes movie, or Kevin Smith movie. Hustler and Playboy were mainstreamed, Larry Flint and Hugh Hefner were celebrated by both men and women. The rules have changed, but for those recently single older men, they are just getting into a game that they no longer recognize.
Or Mean Joe Green. The game they were used to evolved and, well the fundamentals may be the same, the tempo, rules and tactics have all changed. Thank you. An astute observation. Men really need to get over the idea that everything a woman does is aimed at them. And yoga pants are comfortable. Heaven forbid a woman dress comfortably! The Victorian age is legendary for its sexual prudery yet the women wore very tight clothes, with necklines down to here in the evening.
If the clothing is particularly revealing, it would suggest a certain amount of comfort showing that much skin, therefore people would naturally get other ideas about who you are as a person from the clothes you wear. A confident or highly observant woman is less likely to be attacked, whereas a skulking coward with slumped shoulders and a victim complex probably looks like easy pickings. Hello CG Ahhh roll on wishful thinking. Been shown the door one time too many? Anjj did you miss that CG said other women, implying she is a woman. The poster was stating that women should be respectful enough to politely say no thank you, rather than becoming offended when the wrong guy approaches them.
Why is that such a bad thing? If the guy respects her and leaves, who is harmed? To live by your unwritten rules? How about mutual compassion? How about understanding that when a guy approaches you, he is also nervous and opening himself up to rejections, rather than assuming he is wrong for approaching you? Do you Invision a world as one giant Sadie Hawkins dance, were the guys have to wait for the female to make the first move?
Or can a guy make the first move as long as he is willing to except no for an answer? Maybe even allow that he may ask again at a later date if he feels things have changed? Stop projecting your failing on every stranger you meet you sick twisted creature. She seems to vacillate between decent points and boilerplate bitchy feminist.
It decides yay or nay. Take your grievences up with the big guy. Try not going in cold maybe.
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